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Each species has a somewhat different way of telling the sexes...in general, look for a heavier bodied, shorter finned fish to be a female...if you are looking into trying to breed these fish, I would pick up some books on the subject ( I know there is a plethora of info on breeding clowns)...
Captive breeding is difficult at best, but the rewards are worth the pain!