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It's very very hard to sex bandensis, and if you check Righty's site out, you'll see how he does it.
As I keep mine in a breeding group, it's obvious sometimes which are male and which are female. I feel I can take an eductaed guess now after watching them for a while, but I feel there is now obvious diamorphism between sexes.