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There's a number of good threads on what differentiates these two species and also discussions about how reliable these identifications are in the hobby.
It is unlikely that this thread will become as detailed as some that already exist. You might try the forum search feature--you'll find all the information that your heart desires, and have a bonus in that you won't have to wait for anyone to respond!