After receiving some requests from within the community, I am locking this thread as of this post.
The events discussed in this thread were the source of tremendous pain and grief for those in our community who had to endure them. The nature of our forums is that with a simple reply to a thread, old discussions can be rekindled -- most of the time, that's a great thing. In this case, it has the potential to cause us to revisit difficult times which might otherwise be best left behind us.
We are all confronted with tragedy at one time or another. Please know that you have the support of the entire TONMO.com staff and community. We're always here for you!