We hand fed Octane 90% of the time. Occassionally, Neal would not be willing to wait for him to decide he was hungry and would use the feeding stick but most days Octane just came to the top and flopped over so Neal could put the shrimp on his beak - sooo lazy! If Octane was typical (I have found a few outside posts that suggest he was), he will initiate contact more and more often as he trusts you. On occassion he would stick to a finger and pull. This is the only time I did not let him do as he wanted with my hand. When he wanted to swim or climb on me, I allowed it as long as he was not trying to pull my hand down into the tank. Other than the brief tugging, he was extremely gentle and wanted to be handled likewise, just the barest of touches but he kept coming back for and for longer durations.